Monday, March 29, 2010

heading west . . .

We are leaving in the morning to take our Meagan home to Portland. It is a good thing as with each day, it gets harder and harder to let her go. We have loved having her here - through the laughter and tears.

Today she rode a horse again - it was probably the highlight of her time here as it was last summer. It was so windy and cold, but she loved every minute and did not want to give up. Her "cowgirl" clothes didn't make it here with her this time, but she did fine anyway.

We are blessed to get to know her so much better and we will cherish every memory.

Sunday, March 28, 2010

never too old to learn a thing or two . . .

My 6 year old granddaughter, Meagan, is here visiting. Her 4 and a half year old cousin, my grandson, Weston, who lives here in Bozeman, came to play Friday afternoon and spend the night. I was amazed to watch and learn. Meagan started in telling him just exactly what to do and how to do it. Weston looks at her, doesn't say a word, and goes about his business doing what he wants when he wants. When the going got particularly tough for him, he went in Grandpa's office where there is a TV, shut the door, pulled Grandpa's office chair up close, volume low, and watched whatever he wanted. When I peeked in, he looked at me with that look that said, "Please believe me, I am trying."

It must be born in us. We sure start early to keep our men in line. It is no wonder "our men", whether they be husbands, brothers or cousins, survive our need to "manage" their lives. And, just a little note here, smart women never use this skill on boyfriends or lovers - only when we have them hooked or they are captured by being related. It is no wonder they escape to hunt, ski, fish, work on cars and even enjoy hearing loss rather than get a hearing aid. I am still smiling as I realize how I am - only rarely of course. I am going to try to change a little, but it won't be easy. It is part of being female. We are amazing creatures!

Monday, March 22, 2010

Busy days ahead . . .

Meagan is coming tomorrow and we hope she will stay a few extra days after her mom goes back to Portland - but we are realistic and know that at 6 she may not want to stay without Mom.

Our "house duties" plan is working beyond our expectations! It has actually made house cleaning almost fun - note I did say "almost".

More later . . . times here are busy ones.

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Changing things up a bit . . .

"There is no use trying, said Alice; one can't believe impossible things. I dare say you haven't had much practice, said the Queen. When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." Lewis Carroll

And with that wonderful quote, I want to share the following about some "possible things" as life continues to change. . .

Bob retired last spring and we have noticed a few changes in our world every since. He used to go to work each day from 7:30 until he would get home about 6:30. The days were long as he owned his own business, but he always said he liked his "boss". And, Bob was a bachelor until he was 55 when we married. I had traveled for years with my work and I would often not be home at all during the week. In the past couple years, I have been home and working on quilting in my studio or away with parent visits.

We recently started walking each morning before breakfast. We go into our local mall that opens early for walkers. We also found we were eating all of our meals together and I was fixing them. I know that may be normal for most couples, but for us, it was quite a new thing. So, we were together more and more.

One of the things Bob and I talked about this week was not needing to do our walking and meals together all of the time. We are both very independent and sometimes feel "we should" do the meals and exercise together. But we decided we want to have a bit more freedom in our "alone time" and then enjoy our time together more. This was never an issue until Bob retired. I think he feels he needs to be polite and wait to eat with me and go with me wherever I go. I wish I could be so polite.

Anyway, we decided to do our "mall walking" alone sometimes and sometimes together. When the weather gets better and we get rid of the snow, I want to walk outside. We also decided we would try some meals alone - or "on your own" and some together. We both want a bit more freedom than the direction this "retirement road" was leading. So, we came up with a plan we will try and then make adjustments. We have a couple days designated as "eat whenever and whatever - on your own" days. Then I will fix all breakfasts on the other days (gotta eat those steel cut oats you know) and we will be on our own for lunch. And we decided to have a couple nights where he cooks and I clean up and a couple nights where I cook and he cleans up and a night to eat out. Now this is not cast in stone as we can make changes as we need, but just talking about it seemed to free us up to say what had started to become a habit was not working as we wanted.

Also, Bob likes to work together in keeping the house clean, but doesn't like my plan where we both work hard together for an hour three times a week - we had been doing it that way since Christmas. He would like to do "house duties" where we have assigned duties each week and we can do them whenever we want as long as they are done sometime during the week. He loved living in a fraternity house when he was in college and that is how they did it there. I said, "that sounds great to me" - you just plan it and I will do it. And in exchange, I will make sure the shopping is done so be sure to write what you need on the grocery list for lunches and the suppers you are going to plan.

Maybe this won't really work - who knows - but the fun part is we are having fun changing things up a bit. It seems to keep the good part "brand new" and lets the irritations flow away.

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Retreat Week - a whirlwind!

The week went by so quickly that I didn't have time to turn around - let alone write anything here. I will try to post some pictures in the next few days. My friend Gail came up a week ago Saturday from Denver and our friend Laurena came from Helena for part of the week. We did get some sewing done, but a lot of shopping and gabbing as well. I mostly sewed bindings on quilts and helped Gail with a couple projects. We each made a couple purses using the pattern shown here.
Gail flew back to Denver last night and I got some work done on an old project that I have wanted to finish.

Tomorrow I am off to Missoula to have lunch and a quilting inspiration session with two amazing women who I am fortunate to call "my good friends". I will report more when I get back.

And, I am finally taking Mom's quilt to her - all done. We will have supper with her before coming home.

More later . . .